Knowing how your partner accepts, receives, and displays love can truly help simplify your relationship. A friend of mine told me about a test you can take to find out how you (and your significant other) best receive and reciprocate love, called Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages. I found this information to be extremely helpful and think you will, too.
- Words of Affirmation: We all like to hear that what we do has validity. But if hearing this from your spouse or significant other validates you, then this love language might be your predominant one.
- Acts of Service: This is me to a tee. If you love me, then show me. As simple as taking out the trash or making me a cocktail, or as complex as remodeling my house or rebuilding my car's transmission, I'll love it.
- Receiving Gifts: The gifts don't have to be elaborate, just something to say, "I thought of you while I was out and about," can be enough.
- Quality Time: People who want to be shown love in this way want you to truly be in the moment with them, no matter the activity. Just be present.
- Physical Touch: Holding hands, hugging, kissing, massage -- those who appreciate love in this way want physical affection that says, "I'm here for you."
Nobody said love was simple or easy. But knowing how your partner most appreciates being loved can help improve communication and simplify your relationship.
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